Sounds familiar ? Has to ! At some point or the other we wish to punch right into the air. Just why? why do things not go our way ? It could be a non happening career, a non happening relationship.....or just nothing going the way we want it to go.....Just why ?
Frustration builds its own citadel around us and poisons the air we breathe in, suffocating our journey , aborting before we reach the goal......
Guess what ? Almost always .....its not true. The real reason being, that most of us give up, jes before we reach the winning post , because we don't know the placement of the post ! If only we knew that would have made our journey so much easier....would'nt it ! But then the journey would be no fun !
When we want things to get done, most of us believe that it is going to be a smooth run....you wish and it happens ! Whoop ! Nah ....not so easy , every goal is backed by a tedious journey... because there is more to learn from the journey than the goal, we are being tested all the while for our strength to hold on , pull on..c'mon success is not so easy ...you have to show consistent interest inspite of the odds, even if you get choked, clear the clog..move on.......Remember, the bigger the goal, the harsher the journey.....That is the truth of it all !
It's just that the success stories we hear, almost always fast forwards the toil behind reaching there....no one wants to narrate a sad story......no one wants to scratch their wounds of failure and expose their raw reality...since now, they have got it all !
The mantra is DON'T give up trying ,however tired you may be......jesbeatit !
Saturday, August 29, 2009
Thursday, August 27, 2009
AGONY AUNT...WHO ME ?
Someone , whom I had invited to read my blog asked me, what it was all about. When I told him my vision...he turned around and asked me...what are you getting to be an ,
"agony aunt ?"....I felt insulted ...dunno if its 'cause he called me an ,"aunt" or 'cause he made me feel like a vendor of "agony". Hell no..I am none of these . The truth, "me Lord" is that the Blog is my way of connecting with people , who are normal, face life full on and hence will be at cross roads from time to time. My humble attempt will be to be a sign post showing them my way......the way I see it , and if they gain from the sign post ....jolly good. If not....(shrug shrug)
Seriously , if any one out there wants a free opinion on anything ( strictly on life issues only) .....do write in .....I may not give the right views (what is right ?).....but for sure will give a response which will tease your thinking cells.....waiting to jesbeatit !
"agony aunt ?"....I felt insulted ...dunno if its 'cause he called me an ,"aunt" or 'cause he made me feel like a vendor of "agony". Hell no..I am none of these . The truth, "me Lord" is that the Blog is my way of connecting with people , who are normal, face life full on and hence will be at cross roads from time to time. My humble attempt will be to be a sign post showing them my way......the way I see it , and if they gain from the sign post ....jolly good. If not....(shrug shrug)
Seriously , if any one out there wants a free opinion on anything ( strictly on life issues only) .....do write in .....I may not give the right views (what is right ?).....but for sure will give a response which will tease your thinking cells.....waiting to jesbeatit !
Tuesday, August 25, 2009
On Broken Dreams
Yesterday , I watched , as a friend's long standing dream got smashed. I did not move forward to console , because there is no consolation...I have been through that path ever so often. I know how it feels ! Its as if some body has pricked a pin into your balloon of dreams. The only difference in this case being , that the pin keeps pricking even after the balloon is deflated. Then how to soothe the wound exposed to an atmosphere where it cannot heal ?
The best way is to remain quiet in one's pain, cry if you must, because someday or the other you have to get over it, move on because , as they say , dreams keep changing and hope, is one such , "never say die " emotion that dwells in the most negative of us. Sooner or later it will rear its head and work for another dream to get fulfilled !
That's the spirit of man , and a broken spirit is our own creation and not one given by the creator ....So dream on ........to jesbeat it !
The best way is to remain quiet in one's pain, cry if you must, because someday or the other you have to get over it, move on because , as they say , dreams keep changing and hope, is one such , "never say die " emotion that dwells in the most negative of us. Sooner or later it will rear its head and work for another dream to get fulfilled !
That's the spirit of man , and a broken spirit is our own creation and not one given by the creator ....So dream on ........to jesbeat it !
Friday, August 21, 2009
On Being Remembered
The other day at a social do, we were discussing as to how we would like to be remembered after we were dead. Most said they would like to be remembered as , "good human beings" ! Cliched answers , but I guess it made them happy . When posed to me , I replied that I did not want to be remembered at all ! For the kind of vibrancy and energy I exude , I guess no one believed me. But it IS the truth. Imagine carrying my ego with me even in death ! Every tiny success that I have enjoyed in life has not only humbled me but has also made me conscious of the bigger hand that is working through me. Then what's mine to hold on to ?
Whenever anyone has thanked me for touching their lives , believe me , I have been embarassed, why ? Simple ......Thanks to my chatter box nature , there are so many people who are a part of my life ...so many of them are not impressed about me, or anything about me. Then where is my credit ?
If I have touched anybody's life , the credit goes to them , for being open to change or emulate something with which they connect. Its about their growth , without stunting me.I guess I am also a concoction of the influence of so many people and books !
Then what is it that I should be wanting to hold onto ? Life is a journey , let me travel , lightweight !
Huh , jesbeatit !
Whenever anyone has thanked me for touching their lives , believe me , I have been embarassed, why ? Simple ......Thanks to my chatter box nature , there are so many people who are a part of my life ...so many of them are not impressed about me, or anything about me. Then where is my credit ?
If I have touched anybody's life , the credit goes to them , for being open to change or emulate something with which they connect. Its about their growth , without stunting me.I guess I am also a concoction of the influence of so many people and books !
Then what is it that I should be wanting to hold onto ? Life is a journey , let me travel , lightweight !
Huh , jesbeatit !
Thursday, August 13, 2009
On feeling low....
Why is it that on somedays we feel low, "just"....there apparently seems no reason so we claim to be upset, "just".....When you are low for a reason then atleast we give vent to it, scream , shout or fight with the object of cause.....But when it is "just". I have friends who say when they feel low, they escape it by going in for , 'retail therapy', movies, a sinful chocolate tart.....
That set me thinking as to how I behave under the circumstances. Surprisingly I concluded that I wallow in it. That's my way of coping...on its face and often I have found that the subconscious mind tells me quite plainly why I am feeling low and acknowledging it, actually makes me feel better....We all have a , "self image' and many a time when we are low for a reason which does not fit into our, 'self image' we sort of push it at the back as if it does not matter , when actually it does. I guess the idea is to be honest to oneself. Only then can you come off any situation. look into it straight and jesbeatit !
That set me thinking as to how I behave under the circumstances. Surprisingly I concluded that I wallow in it. That's my way of coping...on its face and often I have found that the subconscious mind tells me quite plainly why I am feeling low and acknowledging it, actually makes me feel better....We all have a , "self image' and many a time when we are low for a reason which does not fit into our, 'self image' we sort of push it at the back as if it does not matter , when actually it does. I guess the idea is to be honest to oneself. Only then can you come off any situation. look into it straight and jesbeatit !
Tuesday, August 11, 2009
Trust , what a pious word, something that I hold so close to me, a word i so revere and respect. So then,how should I react if I begin doubting someone whom i care about , if he/she starts displaying a distrustful side to them. Should I give up on the person or should I accept the person for what he/she is.
When someone lets you down, one reacts in two ways, first, ferocious anger, second, bitter pain. In trying to decifer the reasons behind both, a truth emerges . Both our reactions are due to us... not the other, the anger stems out of the feeling, "how dare someone make a fool of me..."Me" its your personal humiliation that someone has got the better of you.The second is intense pain as to , "How could someone hurt me...."Me"
So then , if it is all about me and my reactions, why do I blame the person who is distrustful. It is actually less about him/her and more about me and my reaction to a situation.
So, then what ...I feel I would continue caring , but maybe get a little cautious , till such time that something jes dies in me ...again "Me" and I move on to protect myself..."Myself"
I guess that's the best way to jesbeatit !
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